How Becoming a Mother Changed the Way I Lead

 


Before becoming a mother, I thought leadership was about having the answers.

After becoming a mother, I learned it’s more about having empathy.

Motherhood changed the way I see people.

When I look at our team, I don’t just see employees.

I see parents trying to provide for their children.

I see sons and daughters helping support their families.

I see people carrying responsibilities that don’t end when the workday does.

As a founder, it’s easy to focus on productivity, deadlines, and growth.

But becoming a mother reminded me that people are human first.

Some days are harder than others.

Sometimes a team member is caring for a sick parent.

Sometimes they’re navigating challenges that no one else can see.

I’ve learned that great leadership isn’t about demanding more from people.

It’s about creating an environment where they can do their best work while still being human.

Building a company and raising a child have taught me the same lesson:

People thrive when they feel supported.

And that’s the kind of company I want to build.

— Nikita Mercado
 Founder, Konektao


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